Heather Prince

The RootMaster Blog

It’s all about Intention

How are you doing this week?  If you thought last week was rough you’re not alone.  It was tough and we had a lot of karmic endings arise for us which is both an important part of our ascension cycle and our lifetime now.  We are here to end our karmic ties, contracts, obligations and commitments.  And we’re getting the opportunity to do that now.  It isn’t easy, but it is necessary and we only have to do this once – whereas we repeat karma over and over and over again.

We just had another powerful supermoon. Under February’s full moon in Virgo, the Virgos are going to feel their ambition kick into overdrive and the rest of us are going to feel a lot more productive energy than we’re used to. And unless we all prepare ourselves equally for the change in energy, we might find ourselves feeling overwhelmed beyond function.

If you can anticipate the wave of Virgo energy, you can ride it for all its worth and get things done. Virgo inspires organisational ability, project management and mental endurance, so pick a project that could really take off and have it ready to go for the full moon. Because you’re not used to this kind of intense energy, you might waste it if you don’t harness it. Don’t let it knock you over, grab it and use it to your advantage. This is a great opportunity to get a burst of work done! It’s so important for us to learn how to  manage our energy as we set strong intentions for how we want energy to flow in our reality.

As we have 1 week left in this “Love” month of February, I’d to ask you a question…..

Are you ready for new love in your life or do you want to be more empowered in all your relationships?

Do you want powerful tools to manage your emotional energy, have strong energy boundaries and ensure that everyone in your life “loves, honours and respects” you?

Join my “Inner Relationship Program” now (you will receive a daily email for 7 days, but can take as much time as you wish)  to gain clarity, confidence and empowerment in all of your relationships.

 

 

 

 

Have you ever had your heart broken, been disappointed or felt rejected by someone?  I certainly have and had to gain the self-understanding that the problem is not that I wasn’t worthy of that situation or person, but that there was no alignment between them and the outcomes I wanted to create with my intention.

 

Energies between people and within relationships do change over time and we need to be aware of those changes and make appropriate course corrections.  To do this we must set strong intentions and then manage our assumptions and the expectations that arise from them.

While we assume every relationship is supposed to last forever – and I certainly believed that about my relationship, because my parents had been married forever –  many of us – including me – are learning opportunities that teach us lessons in choosing, alignment, empowerment, discernment and letting go.

When we set expectations, we pull the energy ahead of its potential and then attempt to hold everything together while we try to make everything fit and work.  We are trying to create congruence and harmony by making the energy fit instead of allowing TRUST and FAITH to guide the energy to fit.

We need to set strong intentions for the love (or anything else) we want and then let the energy flow to and through our intention.

Some parts of our outcome may be disappointing because what we thought would work out one way doesn’t.

Other parts may surprise us when we manifest something we thought would never happen!

 

So the key here is to set an intention and then let go and allow the energy to flow…. allowing trust and faith to guide the energy to fit…. 

  • Most of the time our mind is caught up in thoughts, emotions, and memories. Beyond this noisy internal dialogue is a state of pure awareness that is sometimes referred to as “the gap.” One of the most effective tools we have for entering the gap is meditation. Meditation takes you beyond the ego-mind into the silence and stillness of pure consciousness. This is the ideal state in which to plant your seeds of intention.  CLICK HERE TO LEARN HOW TO MEDITATE WITH ME 

 

  • Once you’re established in a state of restful awareness, release your intentions and desires. The best time to plant your intentions is during the period after meditation, while your awareness remains centred in the quiet field of all possibilities. After you set an intention, let it go—simply stop thinking about it. Continue this process for a few minutes after your meditation period each day.

 

  • Intention is much more powerful when it comes from a place of contentment than if it arises from a sense of lack or need. Stay centred and refuse to be influenced by other people’s doubts or criticisms. Your higher self knows that everything is all right and will be all right, even without knowing the timing or the details of what will happen.

  • Relinquish your rigid attachment to a specific result and live in the wisdom of uncertainty. Attachment is based on fear and insecurity, while detachment is based on the unquestioning belief in the power of your true Self. Intend for everything to work out as it should, then let go and allow opportunities and openings to come your way.

  • Your focused intentions set the infinite organising power of the universe in motion. Trust that infinite organising power to orchestrate the complete fulfilment of your desires. Don’t listen to the voice that says that you have to be in charge, that obsessive vigilance is the only way to get anything done. The outcome that you try so hard to force may not be as good for you as the one that comes naturally. You have released your intentions into the fertile ground of pure potentiality, and they will bloom when the season is right.

 

f you like this article and would like to work with me because you are ready for profound personal and spiritual transformation, consider intuitive coaching, where we work together to examine your life path, purpose, potential and possibilities and help you choose one that will bring you joy, abundance, love, peace and power that you are ready for. CLICK HERE to explore the possibilities for transformation.

 

 

Food for thought – Family Patterns through the Generations

 

On Wednesday 6th February, the Gift of Healing TV, asked me to be a guest, to chat about Family Patterns through the generations. 

From family patterns, we gain learned behaviours, habits and routines. 

It can influence your beliefs about the….

World and personal values.

Relationships and how you socialise with people.

Eating habits and diet.

Fitness and how often you are physically active.

Career, education and job choices.

Where you live.

Personality quirks and mental health issues.

Hobbies and how you spend your free time.

Religion, culture and social traditions.

Which of these patterns have you benefited your life?

Which of these patterns have hurt your life?

Be honest.

I look forward to hearing from you.

Let’s Get To The Root!

Heather 

 



 

Look forward to hearing from you soon.

Let’s Get To The Root!

 

Heather x

Welcome to February!


After last week’s blog, I trust that you have been carving out time for yourself, to prevent overwhelm. I certainly have and enjoyed spending time by myself walking my dog Angel. She loves to sit next to me when I’m working in my Energy Studio.

This month we are exploring blocks to love because so many of you tell me that you feel that you’re not ‘built for love’.

As if the kind of man or relationship you want isn’t possible for you – because you’re simply not capable of it.

Fear that there’s something deeply wrong with us is what keeps so many of us women from attracting and connecting to a good man who will love us – forever.

I’m here to assure you that you ARE capable – you’re more than capable. You CAN have a relationship that meets and exceeds your wildest expectations. You just need to learn a few key things to help get you there.

It’s like running a marathon. If you don’t do the training, you’re going to get very hurt and give up. You’re going to think you can’t do it. But you CAN. It’s the same with dating and relationships.

Have you ever heard of “muscle memory?”

It’s what happens to your muscles over time when you repeat a certain movement – your body starts doing the movement AUTOMATICALLY.

Like when you’re learning to ride a bicycle: At first, you have to really THINK about every aspect of what you’re doing – pedalling, sitting up, keeping your hands on the handle bars, etc

After a while and lots of practice, you just get up on your bike and go. It’s a smooth ride.

There’s hardly any THINKING. You do need to be aware of what’s around you, but you don’t have to be putting thought into how to actually ride the bike. You just ENJOY the ride.

And your HEART CHAKRA may be “blocked” due to past hurts or negative experiences, which may have led to preventing your love connection.

I will guide you to just get to FEEL your feelings and bring your man closer as a result.

That’s because, like muscle memory, learning to say I FEEL trains you to stop all the OVER-THINKING that can keep us from connecting to a man on a deep level.

Because you simply can’t connect with a man when you’re in your head – it can only happen when you’re coming from the HEART.

Join my 7-Day Inner Relationship Challenge


In this mini-challenge, you will discover that every relationship you have is a reflection of how you relate and interact with yourself. Your relationship with a friend shows you just as much about your ‘self -relationship’ as an interaction you have with a stranger. Each relationship and interaction are different, yet they each give you the opportunity to realise how much you love, accept, and honour yourself.
Single and ready to work on yourself……

YES I’M UP FOR THE 7-DAY CHALLENGE

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WEEKEND RETREAT

My next weekend retreat is in GLASTONBURY on Friday 22 March (2 nights) until Sunday 24th March, at Apple Fairy Bed and Breakfast.  


In this fun weekend, we will include a half day workshop.  The fairy realms teach us to respect the world that we live in, nature in all of its glory, the animal kingdom and all living things.   Nature provides for us all, humans, insects, and the animal kingdom alike.  It has to be protected in order for there to be harmony and balance on the earth plane.  Fairies are the guardians of the plants, flowers and trees, and every living thing and they can teach us how we can help to preserve and how to bring harmony into our own lives.


Fairies are playful and encourage us to have fun, enjoying all aspects of our lives. 

Anything is possible if we only open our minds to the possibilities and believe.

The workshop runs from 10am – 1pm 

£40 including refreshments and all workshop materials – deposit necessary to secure your place.  Plus the cost for 2 nights bed and breakfast.  

Contact me for a Booking Form.  Space is limited.  

Apple Fairy Outside Log Cabins

Look forward to hearing from you soon.

Let’s Get To The Root!

Heather x

INTENSITY IS UNIVERSAL AND TRUE


The first month of 2019 is almost gone! Imagine if all remaining 11 months are going to go as fast as January and as intense. Would you then consider 2019 to be a successful year? Or are you feeling “blocked” or “stuck” in some way?

The feeling of intensity that we have gone through the last few years is universal and it is true. So, if you are somebody who is feeling knocked by the ripple effects of change around you, make sure you carve out time for yourself from now on, otherwise it can be overwhelming.

ripple effects of change

If you are somebody who feels you have been dragged under the wave, really get creational in the next couple of months and give yourself time to plan a very different future for yourself. Bring in new activities and a new way of dealing with your time and your choices.

Ask yourself:

  • What do I need?
  • How do I stay balanced?
  • Am I looking after myself?

We never know how many days we have left on Earth. It’s always a stark reminder to me whenever I have death close to me that it’s very easy for us in our minds to put certain things off in life. The lady who lived opposite was found dead by her son last week and my friend’s sister has just died of a heart attack, so it’s a wake up call to grab life NOW.

Don’t put yourself off this year – trust that whatever it is that you are trying to drive toward in yourself, for your life, will actually also be for everyone else, because that’s often the excuse that sensitives and healers will make, “Well, I don’t know if this is really serving anybody else.”

Well, do it, give it a go and then see.

Because the dream energy that we have in our hearts is actually a dream for the whole planet, and is the healing key we all need at this time. When we activate our personal dreams, we become more connected to life. And that connection energy is then rocket fuel to others, as it ripples out from you, to everybody else.

Ready to clear your “stuff” that’s not serving you in your Akashic Records?

I would love to help you make changes in your life.

Contact me to book a virtual Ancestral Healing – heather@heatherprince.co.uk

Weekend Retreat

My next weekend retreat is in GLASTONBURY on Friday 22 March (2 nights) until Sunday 24th March, at Apple Fairy Bed and Breakfast.  


In this fun weekend, we will include a half day workshop.  The fairy realms teach us to respect the world that we live in, nature in all of its glory, the animal kingdom and all living things.   Nature provides for us all, humans, insects, and the animal kingdom alike.  It has to be protected in order for there to be harmony and balance on the earth plane.  Fairies are the guardians of the plants, flowers and trees, and every living thing and they can teach us how we can help to preserve and how to bring harmony into our own lives.


Fairies are playful and encourage us to have fun, enjoying all aspects of our lives. 

Anything is possible if we only open our minds to the possibilities and believe.

The workshop runs from 10am – 1pm 

£40 including refreshments and all workshop materials – deposit necessary to secure your place.  Plus the cost for 2 nights bed and breakfast.  

Contact me for a Booking Form.  Space is limited.  

Apple Fairy Outside Log Cabins

Look forward to hearing from you soon.

Let’s Get To The Root!

Heather

The One Relationship….

Did you plan your next seven year cycle?

What did you discover?

Anyway, today Monday 21st January we have a total lunar eclipse. 

The Earth’s shadow covers the Full Moon, and while the emotional centre is obscured, our behaviour becomes more solar, showy and egocentric – eclipses dramatise everything.  There is a sense of abundance and growth, material and intellectual expansion.  I suggest you wait 2 or 3 days before committing to any important decisions in travel, business or relationships.  

So in this blog I’d like to focus on relationships, as they have had a strong focus in recent years – a lot of people have been clearing ancestral connections, attachments, wounds with and through each other.

One recent client had an ancestral shadow of BETRAYAL on her paternal side of the family going back 4 generations. 

Her ancestors had a block to “believing” at that time and their beliefs had created their reality.   They may have believed that they were victims of circumstances which caused them to feel stuck.  It was in fact the belief system (thoughts held in  mind) as well as the emotional energy that they attached to the belief that created more of the same.  Getting betrayed by someone is incredibly painful. There’s no other way to put it, really. Whether they were betrayed by a friend, partner or family member, feeling like a bond of trust is broken can send a person free-falling into anxious, circular thoughts .

They may have believed that people are not “loyal” and can betray either one’s country, a group or a person, which set up the ‘program’ of “Betrayal”.

This was being “played out” in her current life relationships.  

Having an Ancestral Healing, removed this ancestral shadow from her Akashic (Soul) Records and shifted the current energy so “betrayal” would no longer play out.  

Many have very quickly formed friendships, partnerships, business relationships in order to do this, and so many of those have sometimes quickly blown up or changed fast in the past 2-3 years.

This is part of the clearing cycle around relationships, so lessons and learnings have been moving faster than before.

Are you ready to book an Ancestral Healing with me and clear up your Akashic Records?

YES I’M IN 

So as the next seven years are in an elevation cycle, many of you are going to experience what I would call “the one relationship” more. It’s when we start to no longer feel a difference between the connection we have after a two minute conversation with a stranger that we’ve never met, and one we have with a person in our life that we’ve known for maybe 10 years.

It’s not that you don’t value the 10 year history that you have with someone, because that is its own thing with its own specific value. But in terms of the ability to connect with somebody, it’s actually all the same.

We are all human hearts, human souls, human minds, human bodies, and even if we don’t fully know each other’s stories (because we haven’t shared yet or developed that intimacy), we can be compassionate and connected to one another at an all new level when we start to adopt this way of being. So the one relationship, feeling that everything is one relationship, is birthing now and will be stronger than ever in the coming 7 years. Many of you are already experiencing this, but it’s on the increase for all of you. And for those of you who don’t experience what I’m describing often, that’s going to be something that will be more at the forefront than ever before in your next few years, so enjoy it!

Alongside that, it can mean that you trusting to speak your truth at the right moment is going to go on to an all time high in January, February, March – these first few months of the year. It can mean you making subtle or dramatic changes to certain relationships is going to come to the forefront. And your relationship with yourself is paramount too, in terms of your honesty with yourself around things you wish to change. The good news is this energy of truth-telling will have a lot of grace behind it in 2019, so for most, it will become a more normal and rewarding experience than ever before.

This relates to your Throat chakra, which developed when you were between the ages of 7 and 12 years old.  It’s about having the right to be heard.

But the demon is lying and trauma to the throat chakra can come about by mixed messages, shouting, verbal abuse, alcoholism, secrets, lying and authority.  These negative energies can block the throat chakra.

So how do you know if it’s not balanced?

Fear of speaking

Weak voice

No musical ear

Introvert

Shy

Problems with the throat, thyroid, ears, voice, neck or jaw.

It can be easily unblocked with Ancestral Healing, so contact me to book heather@heatherprince.co.uk

Are you clear?

I don’t know about you, but I’ve had that awful “coughing virus” since the beginning of this month and instead of raising a glass of bubbly on my birthday, I was very happy with some nice warm mint tea!

Here I am with my Mum and 3 kids…..

Who knew I would only begin to live my true life at 58?  Then again, I love these 2 numbers – 5 about change, 8 about abundance and leadership.  Together they are 13 – the number of good fortune, feminine empowerment and transformation.  My “13” living is in full motion!  We all have our time, this is only just beginning….

For everyone who sent me birthday wishes, thank you so much, your love is overwhelming!

January so far has been a quieter month.  Have you taken the opportunity to focus on what you want to manifest and how you can create?

Those of you who really take time to listen, slow down, take space in January – you are going to see the best effects.

Or do you find yourself trying to catch your tail?

Are you feeling exhausted or pulled around?

Whoa!  Slow down. Because you really need to take charge of your capacity, your limits and create a new blueprint for your future if I’m describing your reality. A future that includes you.

From February, the world is going to become a lot more vocal externally and the outer world, the action side of our world, is going to rise again.

January 2019 is a time to get really clear – not just about the year ahead – but about the seven years to come.

It would be powerful to write yourself a seven year plan…

  • the things that you would like to experience

  • the things that you would like to bring into your life

  • the things that you would like to create and what you would like to see shift in the world.

These moments where we play with our future in this way, are ways to open back up to our soul.

The outcome of this kind of dreaming and visioning is less important than the fact we are taking time to do it, to listen and to connect.

You may be wondering where to start….

1.  Start Writing

Spend Day One or Week One writing. Don’t get caught up in thinking — especially not over-thinking!. The best way to begin is to do a basic “SWOT” (Strengths, Weaknesses, Opportunities and Threats) analysis.

Don’t hesitate, don’t question yourself. JUST. START. WRITING!

If you don’t know your strengths or weaknesses, turn to 3–4 of the closest people in your life who will offer you honest, objective information. You have to get objective, real information, otherwise, you’re wasting your time. Write all these things down. Know what you’re good at and what you’re not good at. I am a huge believer of concentrating big-time your strengths.

You also need to know what opportunities you have in front of you, so you can always be on the look out, and things that threaten your time, productivity and more.

2. List out the things that motivate you

What drives you? What inspires you and lights a fire inside of you? List those things. This is a very simple exercise. The things that you love likely dominate your subconscious thoughts and maybe even your conscious thoughts. Start writing these things down. Then, determine how much you know about these things, and which of these things you have legitimate skills, knowledge and experience in. Speaking of which…

3. List your knowledge, skills and experience

What do you know? What have you actually done? There’s a very big difference between what you’ve done, versus where you are currently and what you want to do. The prime example of this is, I want to be a successful author. I will soon publish my first coffee table book. So, I’m extremely close to that dream becoming a reality.

My dream is also to be an entrepreneur who writes an Agony Aunt column for a living and coaches clients. But the core of my professional experience has been as a meditation teacher and Ancestral Healer. The moral of the story: I’m in transition. Maybe you are too.

You may want to be a home business owner someday, but perhaps your professional experience or education is in public relations. No problem, but it’s time to start working on that dream.

4. Transferable Skills

If you’re looking to make a career transition or to pursue something you really want, then you’re going to need to list out your transferable skills. Look at your knowledge, skills and experience. If you can do this yourself, wonderful, if not, then ask one of the 3–4 trusted advisors the following: What skills do I have that can transfer over to what I really want to do?

What skills can be transferred over to anything I want? This is of enormous importance to know.

The Plan

Ah, the plan!  Since this is a seven-year plan, it’s obviously going to have some big picture plans, in addition to plans very focused on achieving by the week or month.

Short-term thinking and strategy is always imperative. But if it is not accompanied by a big-picture view that can recognise change, we’re in trouble.

What I recommend you do once you have populated your plan is to manage it in a productivity management tool with tasks.  Each week, I’m taking measured steps to achieve the goals I have listed in my plan.

The way to track your progress and create tasks is to use tools like Microsoft Outlook, Trello, OneNote, Evernote or whatever you desire. Everything has moved electronic, so only having this written by hand is a big mistake! I’d encourage you to take the therapeutic time to write it out by hand. But make sure you have this in an electronic document to track your tasks.

You may wish to use Microsoft Outlook Tasks.

You have to hold yourself accountable. Technology is a great way to do this, with built-in reminders and daily, weekly, monthly and annual tasks to make sure you’re doing what you said you would. If you don’t do this, then a plan is worth nothing. A plan can be a living, breathing document if you actively follow it.

And last, but not least, know this most important principle:

Plans change.

Your plan will change too. Your tasks will change. Chances are, your overarching objective should remain the same. Maybe, that too will change. But I’d urge you to be much slower to change that. Don’t just create something in a few days. Give it deep, meditative thought. Get to the core of who you really are. Then, go forth in confidence and live your dream.

My Seven-Year Plan (Who I want to be and What I want in my life in 7 Years)…….

 

So let me know what you discovered when creating your seven year plan…

I wish you a wonderful new 2019, take care of yourselves, and remember, we are all in this together.

Big Love

Heather 

 

2019 New Beginnings…

We are in a year of BEGINNINGS.  Can you feel the flow of forward movement?   Are you feeling excited?

We are leaving behind a 7 year cycle where we have been clearing old “stuff” energetically and moving into a new 7 year cycle.

Many of you who I’ve worked with have been coming to the end of the road in lives that you have either been struggling to maintain, or trying to make work, but found that things just aren’t working or sticking and 2019 is a really good year to shift things forward. The pain or discomfort of where you have been, together with the Ancestral Clearing of your Akashic Records, will push you forward to create change powerfully and purposely, bringing the evolution you wish for. 

For those of you haven’t had an Ancestral Healing yet, or have had one over 3 months ago, now is a great time  to clear the layers of “stuff” holding you back or making you feel stuck. It is the right time to let go of old beliefs and old ways of being. Are you ready to remove old “blinkers” and see the bigger picture?

If we only focus on chaos; fear or panic going on in the outer world, it can lead to feeling depressed, dis-empowered, lack of faith, lack of passion and low energy.

No-one is comfortable feeling like that!

One of the great things about this month of January, it’s a perfect month to think about intentions…. So if you are sick of your money situation, a certain relationship, your self-image, health, or if there’s a certain thing that you need to say or do, be aware that it might get chronic before it gets better in the early couple of weeks of January.

The good news is, I’m ready to chat to you…

Just go to this link below

I WANT A FREE CLARITY CONVERSATION WITH HEATHER

to begin your new journey of freedom and fulfilment!

 

 

We will shine a light on ……

  • What do I need?

  • What do I want?

  • What do I need next to feel some connection and passion in my life

  • What am I angry or sad about?

  • How far back does this go?

  • How can I help myself move and change this?

One question I sometimes ask clients is this:

Is there something in your life that you truly dread above everything else?

Often the response points to a fear of failing, losing all their money and even becoming homeless.

The fear is often experienced not just at moments of financial worry and stress but even in times of relative prosperity.

They carry around a vivid mental picture of themselves living under a bridge, sleeping in the rain beside a shopping trolley piled with their worldly belongings.

There might have been a small dog in there somewhere – their only friend – nuzzling them as it draws closer for warmth.

Nice picture, isn’t it?

NOT!

The thought-created picture that I described above virtually drives peoples lives for years, and not in a particularly productive way.

Acting out of fear instead of love drastically reduces our options in life and business.

People sometimes succeed in a limited way despite fears, not because of them.

Doing all that we can to avoid a purely imaginary fate can be exhausting.

It uses up vital energy that could be better used having fun, playing full out, exploring our infinite human potential, every day of our lives.

With love, not fear.

I show my clients how to completely revise their picture of homelessness and see it as the fiction that it always was.

Fear  is only thought….

January energy is rising everything to the surface so that you can clear the way to look ahead.

See January as a month of final clearing and forward visioning. 

I WANT A FREE CLARITY CONVERSATION WITH HEATHER 

Looking forward to connecting with you

Make 2019 your year!

Heather 

 

 

 

2018 is nearly over…. and here comes the last full moon

This Friday December 21st is a very important day, not only is it my Mum’s 92nd birthday, it’s also Winter Solstice, the shortest day of the year.

On the following day, Saturday, December 22, the last full moon of the year will rise in the sky. This full moon in particular is laced with all kinds of spiritual and mystical elements because it represents a double closure, and a new beginning.

So be ready for some serious self reflection, but remember to look at yourself kindly, this is not about “beating yourself up”.

You are being given a special chance to reflect on your life and relationships with utmost clarity. Use your instinct to consider the health of your relationship with your family.   You will also be feeling gratitude for the good work that you’ve already done over the last year.

It is at the December full moon’s peak that we might finally see all of the ways in which our actions have lead to positive outcomes.

We can’t really embrace the birth of a new future (the new lunar cycle, the new year, and the new season) until we let go of the past, so this is a crucial time to do the self work you’ve been putting off for months. Get rid of things that aren’t working for you. You will find the emotional strength and motivation to let go of our fears and insecurities.  If this goes deep, contact me for an Energy Clearing of your Akashic records

 

Click here for a FREE meditation to LET GO OF FEAR.

WHAT YOU CAN EXPECT:

  • to feel emotionally motivated, and embrace that energy. Clear the whole house, use your instincts and get rid of everything that doesn’t serve you. 

 

 

  • If you haven’t been putting enough energy in with your family, that deficit will hit you around this time.

  • If a certain pattern of communication with a friend isn’t working out, turn over a new leaf and try a new method.

  • If you’re not where you want to be with your career, light a fire under your own rocket and create some serious goals for yourself to reach in 2019.

  • Whatever you’re doing to excel in the world that isn’t working, both professionally and personally, STOP! Use the energy of the the winter solstice to change your plan of action.

And if you are exactly where you want to be in the world, show yourself some humble gratitude for sowing strong seeds.

 

Which of these would you prefer?

It’s that time of year again.

Two weeks to go and the shops are full of shoppers looking for gifts.

This got me thinking about this week’s blog.

I was wondering, what would you rather have for Christmas this year?

The gift of being present to life or loads of presents?

It was this time a couple of years ago I took my Mum, daughter and grandson to Lapland to meet the ‘real’ Father Christmas, along with his elves, his reindeer and his very large sack of toys.

Now right away, depending on a number of factors, you may think this kind of event sounds overly commercial, perhaps even a bit tacky or phoney, but I can honestly say – hand on heart – that it was quite magical, one of the best day’s out.

We ate mince pies and there was mulled wine for the adults .

We walked through an enchanted wood and there was an ice rink, all against a backdrop of the ultimate winter wonderland of our dreams.

Plus, of course, we got to meet the man himself, the roundest, beard-iest, ‘Ho-Ho-Ho Santa you’ve ever seen.

The designers of the Lapland experience had made every effort, to the point where the man in the red suit almost had everyone convinced.

Obviously he was an actor but at least his whiskers and beard looked good!

What made it extra special for our family was that my grandson Ashley, was a ‘believer’, which meant the visit was free of cynicism.

He was only three at the time.

To see the look on his face and my Mum as we entered the log cabin where Santa held court would have melted the heart of the meanest humbug in the world.

My Mum was nearly 90 at that time and as I watched her face, I saw that she viewed the experience through curious childlike curiosity.

Seeing the wonder in everything, much like Ashley, with no judgement, no filter of thought, opinion or belief getting between her and the sights, sounds and tastes that the universe was offering.

And that undiluted pleasure was what I saw with my elderly Mum and young Ashley as they “got” being present in the moment.

As I stood there watching the ritual of the present giving I remember thinking how lucky I was to have found something equally magical in my own life, something that had been there all along but simply hidden from me by my own thinking.

That understanding is a gift.

When we know. We know.

When clients understand what stops them feeling great about life or work or relationships etc.

They know and they improve.

It’s very simple but not when you don’t know.

It’s there for every client I work with.

We don’t have to go to Lapland for it.

Its free and available to us any time of day.

And the most beautiful thing of all: We don’t have to seek it anymore when we know.

And my clients stop searching when they see this truth: Life isn’t complicated when you look through uncontaminated thinking.

There really is magic in the world if we open our eyes to it, and I’m not talking about Christmas here.

I’m talking about that innocent look of pleasure on my family’s faces.

And I’m talking about those things that matter to you in your life, regardless of your religious beliefs if you have any.

You may not be celebrating the festive season for any number of reasons, but whatever your situation here’s my message to you.

If we can only wake up to the truth that we are all made perfect, that through the power of the understanding of our true nature, we can direct our lives in any way we choose, we can finally start to fully appreciate the wonderful gift of life we’ve all been given.

The gift of being PRESENT.

And you know what?

That’s a gift I can give to my clients because I have it myself.

Being in the NOW is when the magic happens.

They see the solutions to problems that didn’t exist before they became present.

Solutions just appear. Not always immediately, but insights always arrive.

Now that’s a game changer because that’s what my clients want.

I know that you don’t want a fluffy chat about some theory or model.

Perhaps you don’t want to be subjected to someone tapping under your eye or anchoring your big toe.

You want an answer to why you haven’t achieved A B or C and a solution to the problem!

That can only come via an insight.

Have a great rest of the week and I’ll catch you soon.

10 Tips to cope with day-to-day fears

I’ve just returned from sunny Tenerife, so I do apologise for the delay in writing to you and I’ve landed back into the land of Channukah and the countdown to Christmas!

Happy Channukah to all my Jewish tribe.  

As we drove home last night, we enjoyed the Christmas trees and fairy lights everywhere.

It’s going to be a busy month full of parties, festive lunches and present buying, which can feel quite fearful for some people.  This can show up as….

  • tension
  • excessive worry about everyday events and problems
  • irritability
  • difficulty concentrating
  • issues with their personal social and work relationships
  • heart palpitations, elevated heart rate
  • muscle tension
  • chest tightness

So here are 10 tips to cope at this busy time of year:-

  • Take time out

If you feel anxious or fearful, it’s not possible to think clearly.  So, when you are aware of feeling fearful, take time out so you can physically calm down.

I suggest that you DO something, such as a 15 minute walk, even if it’s just around the block, or make yourself a cup of tea (chamomile or green tea is great for calming down)  or run a bath and add some lavender oil.

  • Breathe

If you become aware that your heart is beating a little faster or your palms feel sweaty, just allow yourself to focus on your breathing.Simply feel what you feel, while focusing on taking a deep in breath through your nose.  Hold it for a second, then breathe out through your mouth.  Do this 3 times. Feeling better?  Not quite?  Then repeat until you do feel calmer.If you wish, you can place the palm of your hand on your stomach and breathe slowly and deeply. Know that the fear will recede just like a wave going away from the shore.

  • Feel the fear

Avoiding fears only makes them scarier. Whatever your fear, if you face it, it should start to fade. If you felt fearful at your last christmas party, it doesn’t mean you need to avoid this year’s party.  Write down what the problem, such as “I didn’t know what to say”, then write next to it “What I can do is……………..” ask their name/ask about their job/ask about where they’re spending christmas/ give them a compliment………………  Make an intention to enjoy it without having an expectations.  

  • Imagine the worst

Ask yourself what is the worst thing that can happen?Perhaps it’s feeling so fearful that you drop something or your mind goes blank.Now focus on “What I can do is………….” pick up whatever you may have dropped….. or smile and be honest and say that you mind’s gone completely blank.  People will respect your honesty.

  • Is it true?

It sometimes helps to challenge fearful thoughts. For example, if you’re scared of getting trapped in a lift and suffocating, ask yourself if you have ever heard of this happening to someone. Ask yourself what you would say to a friend who had a similar fear.

  • Go with the flow

Life is full of stresses, yet many of us feel that our lives must be perfect. We label days as “bad”  because of setbacks or things not quite being what we expected, but just allow yourself to go with the flow and remember that is life and it’s ok.
  • Visualise

Take a moment to close your eyes and imagine a place of safety and calm. It could be a picture of you walking on a golden sandy beach, or snuggled up in bed with the cat next to you, or a happy memory from childhood. Let the positive feelings soothe you until you feel more relaxed.

  • Talk

Sharing fears takes away a lot of their scariness. If you can’t talk to a partner, friend or family member, book a free chat with me.

  • Wholesome food

Anxiety and fear are helped with wholesome food.
Brazil nuts are high in selenium which may improve mood by reducing inflammation in the body  which is often at heightened levels when someone has a mood disorder, such as anxiety.
Fatty fish, such as salmon, mackerel, sardines, trout, and herring, are high in omega-3. Omega-3 is a fatty acid that has a strong relationship with cognitive function.
Eating potassium-rich foods such, as pumpkin seeds or bananas may help reduce symptoms of stress and anxiety.Dark chocolate is also a good source of magnesium. Eating dark chocolate may reduce symptoms of depression.Turmeric has an active ingredient called curcumin, which may help lower anxiety by reducing inflammation and oxidative stress.Green tea contains an amino acid called theanine, which has anti-anxiety and calming effects and may increase the production of serotonin and dopamine.

  • Nurture

Finally, nurture yourself by giving yourself a treat. Treat yourself to a massage, a country walk, a meal out, watch a favourite movie, read a book, or whatever little gift makes YOU happy.